Retirement takes quite a lot of adjusting to. Leisure time unrestrained can lead to boredom, self-will run riot and cause one to loose direction and purpose. At times it is necessary to go back to where one experienced the most joy and ourpose to see where a detour was taken. It is helpful to have good friends one can be accountable to. Journaling is also a great way to locate ourselves. Often unforgiveness or bitterness can cause a change in direction-a derailment of sorts. Checking in with the Holy Spirit reveals the particular attitude that opened one up to misdirection-deception. It is very often pride that caused a loss of footing in the journey to Lodibar. At any rate, turning from this in repentance causes a new begiining and a fresh inspiration. Direction, wisdom and insight are no longer in short supply. Often dry spells are present. Disillusionment can also be settling in. At any rate, learning to live with ones spouse in retirement in peace and purpose is the challenge. One needs to look at the things which brought you both together and see if any of those elements might be resurrected. There is no denying it, both individuals have extremely different perspectives on life and what is of importance could not be any different. How then to spend time together without nagging, contending and viing for control. The two shall become one....once aging some and the physical openness falters how can the spiritual and emotional oneness transpire when each is bent on their way. Compromise. The love of Christ us the onky way I have found to tear diwn the walls of difference. Love never fails. Let me see him with your eyes Lord and not jude but accept him as the gift he is. Let the retirement become refirement for Your purposes. It is not too late. You are at work in us to will and do Your good pleasure. Let it be!